Who Really Is Living Your Life?

Who Really Is Living Your Life?

Have you ever sat back in your chair and wondered: Who really is living your life?

Deep question isn’t it? It’s hard to look deep down and conceptualize the answer because maybe we are not always the ones who are living our lives. Really, are you living your life according to what you know to be true about yourself and your world? Or are you living it reacting to other people’s opinions.

The beauty of living life and learning from every experience is that you realize many things. You realize truth vs. pre-conception. You realize value vs. worth. You realize family vs. friends. However, in all these realizations, the danger  we all face when we live our lives from the point of relying on others for how we feel, is that we become dependent on everyone around us and the experience they are having. We weigh the burdens, issues, problems, challenges and opinions of those on our shoulders – rather than being true to ourselves, irrespective of anything else. The true power, blessing and opportunity we have in achieving what we want in our lives comes from one thing and one thing only: continuously being aware of your actions, your values, your ethics, your growth, your  worth – being aware of YOU. Being true to yourself, your emotions, your feelings and your value weighs more vs. being drawn into other people’s reactions, opinions, judgements and expectations of who we are or how we’re acting.

Think about the following:

You wake up with the sun shining bright. You hear the birds chirping away on your window seal. You mentally look forward to a fantastic day of smiles, happiness, networking, success & feeling just great. But, how many of us have left the house feeling so awesome and when we encounter the very first negative experience, it pulls the complete positive, optimistic and happy energy out of us and lands us on a depressing, flat, gloomy, cranky, negative and pessimistic rest of the day?

If you’ve had this happen – raise your hand. I’m raising mine too!

A simple but truthful scenario that we all deal with. And, what’s even more truthful about it is that we somehow, let others influence us in how we feel and how we experience our lives every day. Whether people talk trash about you, put you down, talk to you wrong, be condescending, give you a negative smirk….whatever it may be – it totally ruins the day. But does it have to? Thanks to a friend of mine, Vince Fowler, he so eloquently explained the “Top 2 Inches” – where your head space, the top 2 inches of your head – should be clear at all times. Opening our head space for positivity, knowledge, smiles, destiny, success, happiness…all the good things in life. But at any moment, should some THING or some ONE start to infect the top 2 inches – it’s an instant dismissal.

Realistically, the opposite of the above situation I described also occurs. How often have we left the house feeling less than great and stay constant in that energy all day regardless of how good other people’s energy may be?  Seriously, the fault is on us. All of us, and I mean all of us, react way to quickly and most often than not, accept and own the negative, pessimistic and ugly feelings of others, as our own and we don’t try hard enough to dismiss them.

Let me make this clear: I am not saying that this blog post is about blaming other people for what happens in our lives because whatever is happening to us is none of their business or whatever happens to them is none of our business. The point I am trying to make is that we must come to a point and OWN how and what we create our experiences of our life to be; whether negative and positive.

When we hear “Live Your Own Life” or “Live It Up’, we subconsciously hearing that we MUST move consciously through our days; being truthful, genuine and completely aware of feelings and energies of other people around us. It is that true awareness where the power lies. When we are true to ourselves about our feelings and emotions; when we keep the top 2 inches clear and  when we are aware of what is happening around us ANDwithin us,  it’ll be very difficult to take on someone else’s negative opinions, judgements, expectations or feelings because we are true to ourselves and we know, deep within, that it isn’t true to us.

Lastly, imagine being on a boat going down rough waters/rivers with no assistance; no paddle, no life-jacket, no control – you are COMPLETELY dependent on the water, the force and the flow. However, when balanced, aware and conscious to our surroundings while stay strong in our own values, worth and what we believe, it is just like having this powered boat; having full control on direction – whether up-stream or down stream….it’s all in our control.

So…Carpe Diem. Seize the Day. Live life to its fullest. Everyday. Value yourself. Be true with your intentions. Be true to your awareness. Be true to yourself. Be balanced and don’t live for others. Live for yourself. Don’t let the expectations, thoughts, opinions, judgments and negativities of others affect your top 2 inches. Just be aware and truthful to yourself….I can’t say it enough…

Be Your Best & Live Life. Carpe Diem. Carpe Nochte.

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Asif Premji

I believe in happy ever afters, whether they’re in books or life. I believe that the world is an occasional scary place, one where we need to carve out caves of safety. I believe in the power of the human spirit. I believe it’s a sin to be bored in a world filled with information, beauty, and fascinating things around us. I believe in making a positive difference – everyday – in the lives of everyone I meet. No judgements. No ego. No expectations. Making a difference in just ONE life means that ONE life made better. God Bless.

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